One of the hardest questions that is asked to someone in chronic pain is "how are you?" The reason this is hard is because the answer incriminates you! If I say in responce to a casual, "How are you?" ... "Good!" with a smile on my face then people assume that because I said: "Good" that I am suddenly cured of all my pain! If I say, "not so good" and have a depresses look on my face, people assume that because of my pain I am suicidal or something! It often feels like there is no safe answer! Sometimes when I say: "Good", people will even follow that up with: "Oh so you're feeling better then!?" To which I often don't want to make them sad by telling them that I am still in as much pain as ever .. but i don't want to lie either! Sometimes, to the questioner I feel like yelling: "DON'T I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY WHILE I AM IN PAIN???" To me people who think that I cannot possible be truly happy while in pain are looking at life too shallow! Life is deep, and true happiness is so much more than having everything you ever wanted or being pain free!!! In fact, I think that my pain makes my happiness deeper if I alow it to! I DO have a right to smile .. and I will continue to smile til my dying day!
What do you say to people who ask. "How are you doing?" Any clever combacks?